Author Archives: Miriam Granthier

Surviving Overwhelm or Exhaustion

Let me introduce the 3-2-1 Survival Method©, which I have developed over three decades of working with clients with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, and in emergency situations of overwhelm and stress. While I have been in my own situation of … Continue reading

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The question that is so important and the answer that is not.

What if you didn’t have long to live? I remember sitting with a client during a session while she was waiting for results of a cancer test. “What would you do if the results are positive and you have two … Continue reading


Poking death with a stick, being a goddess and related activities

I tread a path with one foot in one world and one in the other and if you see either just my complaints and suffering or just my peace and curiosity you are missing a part. It’s both, it always … Continue reading


Stop Investing In Getting Better – My Top Tip for Depression and more

One of the most unkind things you can do to yourself when you are unwell with depression is to focus on getting better. Why? Depression is an illness that will run its course and when you are evaluating whether you’re … Continue reading

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Monkeys and balls

Have you heard the story about the golf course in Calcutta? I think it goes something like this: After colonising India, the British in their wisdom decided that Calcutta needed a golf course. They built a beautiful course in a … Continue reading


Why I won’t be fighting my cancer

Sometimes people talk about ‘fighting’ cancer or ‘losing the battle’ with cancer. Quite early on I realised this wasn’t resonating with me. Aside from the fact that I am a pacifist and committed to non violence, I haven’t ever been … Continue reading


Loving On

I stood on the wet sand with salt water splashing my sunglasses. It was a curious experience to feel a tug and and not to act. I couldn’t always see my daughter as she fought her way through the breakers out … Continue reading

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The benefits of exquisite longing and of hope

I’ve recently been reflecting on loneliness, yearning and longing, feelings that my clients often report and with which I am very familiar. Sometimes I long for another person, whether real or imaginary, and I’ve taken to considering, “Who is it, … Continue reading

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Connection, disconnection, adjustment

Gestalt Prayer I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I … Continue reading

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Life Awakening

What is Life Awakening about? And how did I come to devise and write this concept? Life Awakening began, believe it or not, during training in CBT for Trauma, when I found myself sitting at a table next to a … Continue reading

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